I think you're missing the fact that if you are a woman, you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. If you decide to drop out of the work force to have a family, people of both sexes will say "See? This is why it's a bad idea to hire women. They get trained, start the work, and drop out to have babies". If they have kids and keep working? Seen as ineffective because they take so much time out for family reasons. We can't win.

Personally, I am all FOR contraception being easily accessible. The right to control one's fertility is about as basic as it gets. As for why it's not preventative medicine for men...men can't get pregnant. I don't understand what you're trying to say there.

Men's rights movements are currently having the same issues as feminism. Sure, they have valid points, but they have also been conflated with the gross types who think they are entitled to women and also My Little Pony. I am so not kidding.

I will never not call myself a feminist, because I am hoping to keep setting the standard.